Tuesday, November 08, 2005

Summary of “Types of Love”

In the article “ Types of Love,” Bernard Seal says that there are five types of love: ludus, storge, mania, pragma and eros. They each have different characteristics. Ludus love is as a game, so it’s changeable and just for fun. The ludic lovers can control their emotions to enjoy their love as long as the partners are attractive. The storgic lovers develop their feelings gradually and their relationships are like friendships. They can endure long periods of time even if there are not enough dates or excitement. Manic love is intensive and also depressive. Manic lovers want to give and have constant affection, so they use their energy to keep their love. Pragmatic love is practical in some points. People think it is the most important to share similarities with their partners since that can make the rest of life easier. As a result, their relationships can’t be broken up easily because of similarities and being realistic. Erotic love is based on the people who have strong images of beauty. Erotic lovers try to make deep relationships soon because they want the partners to accept them, in all their complexity. In addition, they strongly need to receive equally valuable love from their partners.
I believe there are a lot of types of love except for these five types, and that can be changeable. I have experiences of love that mix some types of love and that are different, because the type of love depends on the relationships between the partners. For example, one of my types of love includes the characteristics of mania and eros. In this type of love, I had a hard time, which means I was worried about losing love all the time, and that made me be unstable and exhausted. Moreover, I strongly wanted to receive love from the partner as much as I gave love to him. It was difficult to keep the relationship longer because I needed to use my whole energy in this type of love. According to another type of love that was based on the characters of storge, mania and pragma, I could find the types of love changed and made a new type as the time went by. For example, I developed my affections gradually at first, so the relationship was quite the same as storgic love. After that, the relationship was similar to pragmatic love because I started to think about our future-if he could be a good husband or not; therefore, I was realistic in order to know that. The relationship was better than first one since it was so stable like a friendship that it kept longer. However, second one had also the characteristic of manic love. That was common in my types of love and made me be unstable often. The reason why that happened is related to that how I developed our relationship. Each person has different types of love, so we can share that each other and develop a new types of love. There are many changeable types of love and that depends on how people make the relationships.

Reference: Seal, B. (1997). Types of love. In Academic encounters (pp. 203-205). NY: Cambridge.


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